People may pose as “twin flames” or “soul mates” stating that they know each other from a previous lifetime. In fact, I know a guy that used to be addicted to online dating and would let many different women know that they were “the one” as soon as he felt the trust had been built up enough to exploit it.
When I was 19, I fell in love with a guy that ran a local meditation centre. He told me I was “special” and he could discern that I was a good match for him vibrationally. In fact, my level of “spirituality” would grow as the result of being in a relationship with him, or so he assured me. I fell into a dangerous trap of ignoring my intuition that lasted for 10 years. To be fair, we both display narcissistic traits because we felt so disconnected from one another, even though we shared two beautiful children.
Being an empath and an intuitive is a blessing, but it can also be a curse. For the “real deals” out there, we have been given extremely accurate bullshit detectors so we can usually smell the energy of a faker a million miles away. This level of knowing is usually the result have having direct experience in a relationship that turned sour.
But what if you miss the signs? What if you start a relationship with someone that keeps you an emotional hostage?
We know the traits to watch out for when we encounter a shape-shifting, egomaniacal sponge pretending to be something that they’re not. They usually leave little clues that they’re more interested in themselves than being an active participant in the expansive consciousness of humanity.
Lack of compassion and empathy in emotional situations is usually the big red flag that signals a warning.
You might receive upsetting news and your narcissistic soulmate might make it all about them.There are infinite definitions of what a true narcissist embodies. The base-line definition is that they pretend to be more important than they are. All of their needs required to be met first, and they are unable to be part of a mutual emotional support system. This stems from an overpowering feeling of insecurity and lack of worthiness, that usually harks back to childhood issues of parents believing they had limited capabilities or perhaps they could never achieve the “perfection” their parents would have wanted.
The narcissist is always on a mission to prove themselves, but in a “spiritual” context this can be become alarmingly dangerous.
Energy discernment and management is a skill that takes years to cultivate and years to practice. The person that believes that they have “awakened” or “unfolded” EVERYTHING in their lives is missing the mark. It’s not possible. This whole “life” business is a journey, and no one has it all figured out. Only a very select few know and experience true “enlightenment”.
The best way to handle someone that is pretending to be “spiritual” or an intuitive empath is to get out of their orbit as fast as you can. As soon as you feel that little intuitive nudge that someone is trying to drain your soul-battery, you MUST detach yourself because it’s a game you just can’t win. As a human being, there will be times in your life where you need love and support, but the “faker” that gets preoccupied with the illusionary nature of life will never give you what you need. You’ll never feel safe, you’ll never feel heard and you’ll always feel like you can’t trust them with anything because you can’t believe they’ll ever be able to be fully present with you without thinking of themselves first.
My belief is that true spirituality is cultivating a deep connection with the Universe first, being present in each moment, talking care of yourself emotionally and releasing all expectations of others.
Yes, you can totally grow through being in a dysfunctional relationship – but the time arises when you realize it’s time for you to release the burden and flourish in your life.
Love is supposed to be kind, compassionate, supportive and connected, and self-love and rising up with bravery is even sweeter. In April, it will be 7 years since I left my first marriage and left with 2 suitcases, 2 beautiful children and over $30,000 of debt. In that time I have healed, found love, given birth, moved countries, worked with thousands of people, honoured my voice and built a multi-million dollar business model with the love of my life. Something really magical happens when you take responsibility for the things that aren’t working and you consciously choose to rise above fear and do something about it.source: sarahprout