Narcissists are people who drain other people’s energy by constantly focusing the flow of the interaction towards them.
They don’t care whether they’ve hurt someone or not, as long as they get what they want.
No
matter how choosy you are with the people you surround yourself with,
most of the time, a narcissist may manage to sneak its way and make your
life difficult.
In fact, most of us come in contact with up to 3 types of narcissists daily!
Before
you get carried away by their blatant misdoings, it’s important to know
who they are and how you can better manage yourself in dealing with
them.
1. The Obvious Narcissist
This type of narcissist carries no self-preservation. They are very vulgar, rude, cruel and blatant in their actions.
Name
calling is their favorite game. Because they operate in an obvious
manner, it’s easy to avoid them, as nobody tolerates a bully.
They
need a constant fix of approval and validation and they get it by
making others feel smaller than them. This is because deep inside, they
are the ones who feel smaller than everyone else.
If this type of narcissist crosses your way, just walk away. This is straight forward with no hidden issues or agenda.
Get
yourself out of their way because you don’t want to make your life
difficult by letting someone as mean as them in your reality.
2. The Passive Aggressive Narcissist
A passive aggressive behavior is one that requires much patience in dealing with.
Narcissists
who are passive aggressive could act like angels before you. But once
you’re not around, they love to tear you apart.
They are so good in their game that almost everybody would believe every word they say.
This
type of narcissist might whisper something like, “Ew, you’re fat.” to
you just before you enter a room so you will feel less confident. And
they will make sure no one else hears it except you.
Once
you confront them, they’ll deny your allegations and try to appear as
innocent victims. This makes you look like a dramatic liar. Some people
might even start doubting themselves.
They
are so good in twisting stories that they make your proofs ineffective
and incorrect. They have to be good at this because that’s the only
thing that feeds their ego.
They seek love and validation from others while trying to use your lack of confidence to fuel theirs.
Other
people will only believe your words once they fall victims to this type
of narcissist. The best thing you can do is warn your friends, then
walk away.
3. The Manipulative Narcissist
The manipulative narcissists are so good at disguises that are almost undetectable. They hurt you in a subtle manner.
They
give you compliments when it’s due, but in a sarcastic way. Their
insults come in casually and don’t appear to be with an insulting
intent, yet deep inside your self-esteem is tearing apart.
The manipulative narcissists are good at operating their game at a subliminal level.
If
you want to be sure that someone is playing this game with you, you
could have a friend look out for you. Outsiders perceive things with
clarity.
Choose
a friend whom you can trust and has your best interest at heart. When
they point out things to you that you haven’t seen or noticed, heed to
their words and consider.
It
might be difficult to walk away from a person whose life might have
been interwoven with yours. But if it’s the only chance to keep your
sanity, then go on and live your best life.
You
must be full of courage once you walk away because narcissists love to
make their victims appear crazy. They’re good at hiding their cruelty
and may make you look like the cruel one who left them despite treating
you “nicely.”
But it’s not their stories that matter in your life. It’s yours.
Keep an open mind and be aware of the type of people who may be surrounding you.
Just
remember that in dealing with narcissists, walking away is the best
thing to do. It’s least stressful and a really good way to show them
that you are the one who has complete control over your life and the
people you let in.
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